about to turn 38, single, due to some recent medical diagnosis i sold my house and back with mom. changed careers to work from home customer service with room to grow. so overall good but i’m ready for more (edited last word)
Make it cool. Single, hella unemployed, no kids; yep.
Makes ya a Shunky.
The dollar store version of the Slinky. I remember getting a shunky as a gift. Magical times. I'm making up the name though....
That’s the spirit. Single no liabilities, I mean kids. Employed, fully remote. 90th percentile income for my age group and I still can’t afford these Hinge dates.
Same tried to live with someone and do the relationship thing split rent. Not worth the loss of independence. Rather just date someone and keep my independence.
1985, single male, no kids, homeowner, work in healthcare and trying my hardest to make new friends (view my last thread). It's pretty rough out here, but it could always be worse, so I'm pretty grateful.
I'm getting 'laid off' in a month or so (company is going under so we're finishing up contracts), I keep hearing how bad tech is right now and I'm very nervous :(
Was laid off the end of last year and had offers by the holidays. I was definitely super stressed out and hate the whole interviewing process but practice, study, and have faith that things will work out! Companies are having layoffs but they’re also still hiring - you will find something!
Born in 1988. I'm female and married to a male senior psych nurse. We have been together for 15 years. I'm a Clinical Psychologist. We have a dog we love endlessly. Mortgage. No children yet due to recurrent miscarriage and are currently going through IVF. Apart from the total devastation of fertility issues its all good.
Best of luck to you, friend. Pretty much the same situation for me as well, only 87, and we have a cat we love to pieces. 2 failed transfers for us, in addition to 1 failed cycle because my body is just… dumb. Wishing you lots of good luck and love for your eventual rainbow baby ❤️
Infertility mama here too. We’re still digging out financially from our oldest. But we managed to have 3 beautiful babies and it was worth it despite multiple years of losses and infertility. We were ready to just be dog parents and give up.
Sending you all the best wishes. We finally had our rainbow baby after 4 retrievals and 5 failed transfers, plus a miscarriage before IVF. Hang in there and keep fighting!!!
Sorry you’re dealing with infertility. You are not alone. We’ve stopped trying at this point because I couldn’t handle it anymore. Kuddos to the people who keep at it because after 2 yrs of treatments and procedures, I was ready to throw myself off a cliff (seriously). Accepting the hand I was dealt has been the last 6 months of my life, and while I of course still want a baby, I gave up on trying because of how deep in depression I became. I hope you have a different outcome. ✨✨✨
All the best to you & your husband! Once you hold your rainbow baby in your arms, this struggle will have all been worth it.
Congrats on your career success, happy marriage and of course, your lovely dog. :)
Born in 89, married, stay-at-home parent to two kids. Just barely scraping by on my spouse's income but childcare would cost more than my paycheck if I went to work so it's actually cheaper for me to stay home. Life's not great but my kids are happy and healthy so that's what matters.
I was talking with a coworker friend at work about tax season and she was bummed she was only getting a $1,200 rebate for the money she spent on childcare (daycare).
Told her that sounds pretty nice still. She replied while it was better than nothing she spent over $20k on daycare this year and that was just for her one daughter. My jaw hit the floor. Told me it was just under $500 every week.
How the fuck are people paying $500/week for childcare is beyond me.
Yeah it is insane. And my stepson has ADHD and ASD so that makes finding childcare that can deal with his issues even harder and more expensive. The only reason we can make it is because my FIL passed away and left my spouse his house. It's not very big and not in the best shape but it's a roof over our heads with no rent or mortgage which puts us in a better position than a lot of our generation.
I mean life is pretty great apart from stressing about lack of funds a lot lol. And our families live over an hour away so we have no help with the kiddos.
This is very close to my situation now too. I do not miss the corporate world, but I do miss being good at my job. It's not worth the time I could be spending with my babies and spouse though.
Under two hours away isn’t so bad, do the kids like to visit family on weekends ever to give you both some time alone? I’m also a SAHM, 4 kids. My mom lives two hours away and occasionally “borrows” a couple kids for a weekend here and there. Everyone else is 12 hours away.
Same! No family help, they live far away. Stress about money (and climate, and the future...) is the only downside, otherwise really happy with my kids and family situation.
Similar but 90. One kid, stay at home for the time being, married. We can’t afford childcare at the rate it is in our area (about $2k a month) so I had to fall on my sword in regards to my career because of this. I work in natural resources so the money just isn’t flowing in the field (I never thought I’d have a kid so it was never a factor in my career choices) while my spouse is more marketable. My daughter is happy but, man, am I fucking depressed. My spouse is very supportive about me wanting to resume my career though. But times are rough.
This hits too close to home lol. Born in 88 married 2 kids. I work from home and my wife is a stay at home mom. We're in the same boat scraping by and just trying to keep afloat.
Born in 86, married this past Oct, just had my first kid in Dec, plus 2 dogs and a cat. Oh I’m a teacher and my husband is a plumber. Very happy with my life though I wish my pay was better and students were more respectful & did their work 😂
'87, gay (if that matters to anyone reading this), and married for nearly 6 years (wife is '85) and we have two kids. We are both employed, me in manufacturing and her in state government. Allows us to just eek into the middle class life we want.
Made it to my career, but now transitioning to another area that I also love. Making good money and living in a loft in a major city. Single and dating around. I don't really feel lonely as I have different types of friends (e.x. single, married, kids, no kids, etc). Word of advice, comparing yourself to others put a damper on your joy. Pursuing what you want, not mother how big or small, regardless of what others are doing, will make life more fulfilling.
86 baby here
When my dog isn’t at home napping, it’s because I took him to daycare to play. Jesus. I guess not having kids allows for that. I always ask my dog why he hasn’t found a damn job.
Same for me. I tell people I’m a stay at home pet parent. Feel a bit like a unicorn in my circles since friends my age are either single and struggling or in a stressful relationship and struggling. Also, people tell me they are jealous of how lucky I am while simultaneously implying I must be lazy or something, it’s odd.
90, Male, Married. No kids and no plans for them. Active Duty Space Force as a Cyber Operator. Joined to escape poverty, should make 90-120k when I get out in 14 months.
Its not as cool as it sounds, essentially its blue team cyber Anti-hacking/cyber defense. A big chunk of it is staring at a SEIM alert system waiting for something dubious looking to pop up so the team can investigate and find out it some other unit running a test they told no one about.
Single and make good money thanks to a union job where I work long hours.
I don't think there's any mystery to why people working low paying jobs feel more stress and possibly embarrassment. Its just basic economics, not culture or society.
Being single is a more complex conversation. I just roll my eyes when people give me a hard time about it. Try to explain my view on it best as I can, but I tend to learn more about other people's insecurities when they act like it's so strange to be single.
My oldest son is 33 and there is no woman in his life and people keep asking me why. I’m like, I guess he doesn’t want one there! He had some bad dating in college and hates drama.
That’s honestly the gist of it. I was single for 7 years before I met the woman I’m dating now, and if something causes us to fall apart, I honestly don’t know if I’ll bother dating again 😂.
I’ve been with my husband for 15 years and I will never get married again if I am somehow single again. I love my husband and he is my best friend, but I don’t think the stresses and efforts of marriage or a long term relationship would be for me a second time.
Yeah, I started dating my first husband at 19 and we divorced when I was 30. Starting dating again at 31 and realizing that I didn't know how to do it as an adult was super weird and uncomfortable. But I guess I got the hang of it, and ended up remarried. I hope I don't have to do it again though.
I was widowed at 31 after 8 years of marriage. I had a brief ill advised second marriage, which produced my now 4 year old daughter. My mom doesn’t understand why I say I’m never getting married again. I’m like “number one, I’m not trying to be the Ross Geller of our family, but number two, I am very content with my life being just me and my daughter.” I don’t want anyone else living in my house. I was open to marriage after my first husband died because I wanted to be a mom (though if I hadn’t met my ex I would have pursued pregnancy via sperm donor). But I’m not having any more kids and I can do anything I want to do either on my own, with my kid, or with family or friends. Going out on dates sometimes would be nice but I’m not interested in marriage at all.
1985.
Single.
Stuck in a dead end job.
I seem to be cursed with an infuriating amount of bad luck that can't possibly be a coincidence.
It seems to me no matter how much or how little effort I devote to anything the result is always identical.
I can't be bothered anymore. I have given up.
Single. Several medium-long term relationships. No big drama, just none of them felt quite right to take that next step towards marriage. Still hoping my person is out there. And still happy I didn’t settle for not quite right.
I'm same yr, worked in banking for a few months after 10 yrs in travel... my job was killed during the pandemic. Now I work in insurance, for a brokerage company. It's... interesting.
There are trade offs to everything. I’m single at 35 (89) and I live alone with a ton of farm animals. I love them and have a good paying job, but often feel like I could’ve/should’ve done more to be married and have kids. You should be thankful you are married. The dating scene is terrifying right now. At least you have a partner in this crazy mess of a world. But I get it, there are trade offs to different lives/lifestyles. Don’t beat yourself up too much, and I’ll try not to do that to myself as well, hah.
You're only 35. If the partner's meant to be they will show up.
The dating scene is awful. It's funny I never feel unhappy being single until I try to date!
I feel the same way- if it’s meant to be it’ll be. Although I can’t help but be bitter and feel like my clock is ticking if I wanna have kids with the right person…and after just getting out of a 9 year relationship I feel I was robbed of it in a way. But I am trying to be positive.
I had to move in with my parents in my early 30s when I got divorced due to being broke. Result was being able to finish my abandoned degree and go from making 40k to 129k. It can work out. Just utilize the time wisely and leave better than you arrived.
It's pretty rough when your mother is overbearing and treats you like a child. I get questioned all the time and I have little freedom. She infantalizes me most of the time. I'm a little girl, not a 32 year old woman lol
Keep going, do what you have to do, and please keep the hope!! It won't be like this forever. I was in your position 2 years ago after a divorce, and dealing with recurring bouts of covid that left some permanent health issues I was just trying to figure out. I had to move states and look for a new job, and moved in with my parents. I needed a couple months to get my mental health in order (after escaping a traumatic situation), get my strength/health back, and look for a job. Nearly immediately, one parent's untreated mental disorder started having a very bad effect on me. Like you have experienced, with the constant watching and infantalizing, and it seemed like they wanted to take over every aspect of my life and control it, and normally I would appreciate the help/concern but it was very bad advice and just overreactions to various fears/anxiety, rather than conscious planning. But finally I had enough money to move out, and where I am now, I am happier than ever. Please do not lose the hope, you will be there soon, at a place of your own!!! It will be worth it!
I am 1990, divorced, single, and no kids. And I have had to switch careers; due to my new health issues, I cannot risk getting sick. My doctor told me to "run from [my previous] job as fast as you can" and look for at-home work. So now I am a customer service rep, answering phones all day, helping people with their issues over the phone. Its a cut in pay but I've found working from home is way less stressful, so it's a fair trade IMO.
I would invite the hell out of you two to parties. An astrophysicist and a pharmacist? Drugs and the universe, the universe and drugs. That's a hell of a night.
Husband (84) and I (86) own and run a business together. Own a house and plan on dying here. We've been together for 13 years. He's the absolute love of my life and if he died tomorrow I'd spend the rest of my life mourning him and trying to make him proud. I'd never have another romantic relationship ever. No kids, two dogs. When these dogs are gone we are done. We really care about the environment and do everything we can to do our part. We care about our employees and their well being/lifestyle. We are constantly busy and run down, but this is our best life.
1990, female. I have a small mental health business and I’m a mental health counselor. Got married in 2022, pregnant by the end of 2022, and we now have our first child. My husband was born in 91, is a neuropsychologist (PsyD), I’m his second marriage, and he’s in the USAF. He also has a son from that first marriage (it did not last long). So we have a blended up crazy life but we love it.
Late 84 so I will respond, I am disabled and have no job or relationship. I will likely die on the streets because I will have no kids to care for me and won’t be able to afford a care home .i am very depressed reading this as not one person is in my situation and most here seem to be excelling . This post made me feel like a loser and I am a year older than the age range you listed . How the hell did people of me generation find good jobs that pay a living wage ? I thought more millennials were child free too because who can afford kids ? This made me feel like shit and killed my confidence.
Most people who are struggling don’t have the courage to comment. My brother, 88 still lives at our parents home with not too many prospects. I am doing fine myself after making a hard pivot in my career but find the next steps of my life less inspiring because I am mostly in the service of others.
My ex (88) lives with his sister rent free in a HCOL area. He is basically the house boy and his parent’s friends keep him in sporadic work. He peaked in hs and early 20’s when he was a star athlete and bro. After he failed out of college he started coaching snowboarding. His ex cheated on him with an instagram influencer and he found himself back home (sister-84) who has a masters, coaches and sport and works 2/3 other jobs and owns her home.
His best friends are stay at home dads with successful wives or wealthy wives. This is his dream.
He is currently dating a 38 year old from a wealthy family with a professional career so he may get his wish.
Edit: he cheated on me with her (she knows nothing about me). He didn’t tell me until after he’d been sleeping with her and decided he wanted to date her.
So yeah, I’m bitter lol
> Most people who are struggling don’t have the courage to comment.
Granted I'm not a regular here, but that is a stark difference between this thread and nearly every other thread that has popped up on my feed from this sub. Those other threads have very much been overwhelmingly dominated by the voices of people who are struggling, to the point where talking about personal victory or overcoming a generational hurdle feels subversive and inappropriate.
Please do not compare yourself to anyone in this post. "Comparison is the thief of joy". I prayed that your life will change for the good. This post quickly turned into a humble brag or something similar of that sort. Everyone is responding to the title question and I don't know if anyone actually read the post description or answered the question the description.
Don't judge yourself by comparison with others like OP is trying to do. Just focus on where you are. The most important step isn't the first one, it's the next one. Always the next one.
Don’t feel bad. You can’t do anything about being disabled and no one should judge you for it. Live the best life you can.
And it’s 100% true millennials did not have as many kids because of money. A lot of people comment because they want to show off how well they’re doing. That’s not typical. Many, many people are struggling. And a lot struggle but lead happy lives because while money can make life easier but it’s not the only thing that makes someone happy. I work with a lot of people who make good money who are miserable.
88 here. Also have a disability but not disabled enough to receive SSDI. Recently single, recently unemployed (both by choice). Don't make enough money to have kids so why get married to someone who wants them (why get contractually married at all at this point) and why work for wages that barely pay rent/food/utilities with nothing leftover. I'm moving into my SUV and becoming a "human tumbleweed." Fuck it.
Your post inspired me. I know that sounds weird but when I read it your rebellious determined spirit really stuck out. I have a feeling you’re going to come out on top. I also have a disability but if I could get SSDI it would be a nightmare of red tape to accomplish. So I got so sick at one point that I was ready to quit my job. I lost a ton of money from my salary by going way over my allotted sick days but I filed FMLA and was at least able to keep the job. Eventually I became burnt out and took another job that was a change and a bit of a gamble. I kinda felt the same you’re feeling. Like just fuck it whatever happens happens. And it turned out okay for me and now I can see myself being able to hold down a full time job because I ended up with a much better work/life balance. Don’t give up. Sometimes doing something crazy is exactly what you need. Good luck!
I was scanning the comments looking for a post like this lol I’m a May 87, 37 in 2024, mentally disabled who’s struggled socially my whole life. I make money, but it’s sex work lol Never been in a relationship and no kids either (don’t want them in my situation). What helps me is trying to at least cognitively (even if I can’t emotionally) be glad for people who fit into society more. At least they haven’t had to suffer in the same way I have.
When questions like this get asked, it usually attracts the people who are doing well to come on and brag. No one is gonna enthusiastically jump in the thread and say they make 35K. You’re not a loser. I hope things get better for you. 😊
I think the demographic on Reddit probably leans toward certain groups. You are not alone. I’m born in 85, from low-SES family. And I’m an unpaid, triple, and multigenerational, caregiver. That means I care for three dependents from three different generations and I don’t get to claim them, or build my social security because I’m unpaid. So I’m looking at no support in my later years either. Hoping for a state hospital to pick me up when I reach that stage 🤞
Ok so I'm a little confused about this so please school me if I'm wrong. You get 4 social security credits a year for working, right? And need 40 to qualify. So you only need to work for 10 years to qualify for social security. I started working (officially) at 16. But full time at 18, so now in my mid-thirties, even if I were to not work for the rest of my life, I'd still qualify for social security wouldn't I?
The more you put in the more the payment is. So if they aren’t working and had low paying jobs, they’re probably looking at minimal to laughable social security that probably would barely cover groceries. They calculate based off your highest 35 yrs of pay. So sure, you could have decent social security, but if you were in low paying jobs and didn’t “contribute” as much, you’re SOL. The things they failed to teach us.
85, I would be in your situation if it weren't for my mom and step mom. Not disabled though.
No kids. No job. I was evicted during the pandemic and would of been living on the streets if it weren't for my mom. So i ended up in the basement of my childhood home with 2 cat siblings.
When i came home my narcissistic step dad went insane, told me to "get the fuck out of his house." He was removed and starved himself to death so he could die on xmas.
My step mother is a rich heiress of my inventor dad. He died in 2014 and got all the money but feels guilty since my sister is doing well and i am not. Meanwhile, she has 2 apartments in NYC and Boca. She... is the reason I survive, stuffing my bank whenever i am about to overdraft.
Have you considered kittens?
Don’t feel bad! I’m an 86 baby and just had to move back in with my elderly mother because they raised the rent in my area.
I’m single, no kids, and unemployed because I couldn’t handle the career that I was in. It sucks sometimes but my friends have gotten me through a lot of my self doubt.
And honestly I’ve gone through some tough losses these last 5 years. Just being here, alive, with ability to still experience the good things this world has been enough.
Only the people who are doing well want to comment. And remember, this is Reddit which, despite how it may seem, is only a small fraction of the world. Please do not compare yourself on here
Just managed to get free from an abusive relationship in December. He destroyed my life, especially socially. People think he’s wonderful and is held in high esteem. (I mean, I fell for it, too…) He started rumors about me I can’t come back from, including in my career. Now I’m living with a friend’s parents trying to put my life back together and get my health in order. (A lot of health issues from cancer surgery and treatment.)
My life is an actual dumpster fire. I lost my job when I found out I had cancer and haven’t been able to work since but I was denied disability. Now I have to figure out bankruptcy, disability, etc. and find a way to get an income ASAP.
1989, married with 2 kids, career as a technical writer at an amazing company. It wasn't always like that.
After high school, I spent about 9 years stuck in retail hell at Sears. Lots of debt and small apartments Even when I was a department lead/assistant store manager, I couldn't help but feel a twinge of failure when I'd run into a classmate who was a bioengineer, or had bought a house and was otherwise debt free.
I finally got my degree and career in tech writing at 28. Things have been great since, but I've learned a lot. If I run into an acquaintance, I will not ask what they do or talk about my job unless they ask. It's a bit tougher running into them at their work. I'll smile and acknowledge them, but I won't try to catch up unless they want to. Sometimes they're excited to see an old friend, other times the keep their head down or run off to the back room.
Married, 3 kids and recent house purchase we severely regret due to repairs and overall cost. Renting was cheaper and that sunk money could be making us more money in smart investments.
1985, my husband and kids and I are living with my parents in my (much expanded, dad’s a building contractor) childhood home and we run a food service business out of a rented kitchen; we’re poor as fuck right now but have good state insurance (Washington) and healthcare and my parents are living more comfortably in retirement in part because of our occupational and housing choices.
89 female, married in 2019. No kids (I'm sterile now woot!) But we have 2 cats and I rescue plants. I have had a few job changes but nothing really "career-esque." I am still in Food & Beverage but have an opportunity to pursue events. My husband was HVAC (81') but got hurt, so he's raking in very minimal income. Overall we are not *struggling* but definitely can't take vacations or pay my car off.
85, divorced (back in 2016), no kids (thank fuckin god), work in redacted. My parents keep ask from time to time if I'm seeing anyone and I date, but I don't know if I wanna do the serious thing again. I'm lonely, but I'll survive.
87, married in 2020. Do not own property. My company was bought for parts aug 22 and laid off everyone, Wife quit her job may 23, cashed out some stock and we travelled for 6 months (2 in Europe) cuz we didn’t want to wait when we were “retired” for that kind of experience. Have friends with high paying jobs who have homes and kids, but most seem miserable.
Statistically most people aren't going to have a high paying job. So your experience fits with a narrow anecdotal group. Maybe you are from a wealthy area or all your friends are wealthy overachievers.
1986, married, two kiddos, used to be a teacher but it made more sense financially to stay at home and raise the kids. They are almost school aged so I’ll be jumping back into the workforce soon, but probably private tutoring. I’d rather not teach again, especially after covid. I’ve heard it’s a hell scape out there.
Late 84 here. Single. Good job; molecular biologist. Lots of friends and active social life. I’m living pretty comfortably but costs have gone up a lot more than my salary the past couple years. I have a nephew; brother born 86 and married.
87, female, married, one kid. I tried being a Realtor after the kid was born, couldn't cut it with expenses and lack of childcare. I clean houses now, working more now that kid is in school. Husband was an EMT when we married, switched to the USPS because he made more money there. We don't have any extra help from anyone, and our bills are outrageous. Wish I could get a regular full time job with benefits, but daily scheduling makes it impossible until kid is old enough to be left alone a few hours after school, which will be at least 6 years from now.
Single and childless, as I never in a million years wanted a family after growing up in mine. Switching careers from education to nursing, nannying to make ends meet.
1986, married 10+ years, 4 kids. My wife and I both work in healthcare. She is a cancer surgeon and I'm director of predictive health (AI development and integration) for a large health system.
87 married for almost 5 years to an 85, expecting our first in May. Both work remote office jobs, live in the Bay Area and none of our friends have kids. Our Midwest friends (originally from Chicago) almost all have at least 1
1987, divorced, working as an IT systems engineer mostly remote. I'm hoping to find someone that wants to have kids. My ex-wife changed her mind and decided she didnt want kids any more, ending the marriage.
about to turn 38, single, due to some recent medical diagnosis i sold my house and back with mom. changed careers to work from home customer service with room to grow. so overall good but i’m ready for more (edited last word)
What kind of customer service job?
Also curious.
Elevance Health and UnitedHealth care both offer work from home jobs. Also google the WAHjobqueen, she is always posting different WAH positions
You got this bro, best of luck!
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Hi sink :) Single Income No Kids
I’m a SLINKY. Single Low Income No Kids, Yep Edit: born 1985
I am also a 1985 SLINKY!
Everyone loves a slinky!
I'm sunk, single unemployed no kids
Make it cool. Single, hella unemployed, no kids; yep. Makes ya a Shunky. The dollar store version of the Slinky. I remember getting a shunky as a gift. Magical times. I'm making up the name though....
1990 SINKs whuddup
Team SINK here too
Dinkwads here. Dual income, no kids, with a dog
I prefer DILDO dual income large dog owner
Same, but we're Dlinkwads I guess because we're dirt poor.
😎👉👉
r/rimjob_steve
Also single and no kids
That’s the spirit. Single no liabilities, I mean kids. Employed, fully remote. 90th percentile income for my age group and I still can’t afford these Hinge dates.
No risk no reward.
SINKCAKs Single income no kids cats are kids.
SITKOM. Single income, two kids, oppressive mortgage.
Same tried to live with someone and do the relationship thing split rent. Not worth the loss of independence. Rather just date someone and keep my independence.
Big same here
1985, single male, no kids, homeowner, work in healthcare and trying my hardest to make new friends (view my last thread). It's pretty rough out here, but it could always be worse, so I'm pretty grateful.
89, single lady, no kids, kickin ass at my job and very happy with my life and social circles outside of work
88 but same!
it took me far too long to realize there wasn't a bunch of 86-89 year olds hitting up this thread
It took me like maybe 10 seconds Idk but yeah I was confused at first for a bit
They are on facebook
Same here. '85, single, child free, work in software.
Also '89, also a single woman with no kids who's kicking ass at work and outside of it. I feel like you are my kindred spirit!!
89 and same except for the social circles. Lockdown made me a hermit and I’ve been trying to break out of that lol
k taylor
86 and same, OP is giving off judgy vibes
Yep. But the comment section is glorious. So many octogenarians living their best lives.
Same
Me too! Love this life! 🥰
Same here!!!
👏👏👏
Ditto! Add two cats tho! Look at us killin it out here!
87, male, married and have 2 kids, and work in tech
Same except I got laid off in November lol
Also tech worker, got laid off in december too, feels like golden years of tech are over. Im single, no kid.
I'm getting 'laid off' in a month or so (company is going under so we're finishing up contracts), I keep hearing how bad tech is right now and I'm very nervous :(
Was laid off the end of last year and had offers by the holidays. I was definitely super stressed out and hate the whole interviewing process but practice, study, and have faith that things will work out! Companies are having layoffs but they’re also still hiring - you will find something!
Sorry to hear that dude. 🤞something comes up soon
Thanks! been interviewing a bunch since the New Year, so I'm optimistic one of these roles will work out.
I just got into IT
The absolute worse time to get laid off tbh. Just laid off last week.
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Same except 86 and work in research
Born in 1988. I'm female and married to a male senior psych nurse. We have been together for 15 years. I'm a Clinical Psychologist. We have a dog we love endlessly. Mortgage. No children yet due to recurrent miscarriage and are currently going through IVF. Apart from the total devastation of fertility issues its all good.
Best of luck to you, friend. Pretty much the same situation for me as well, only 87, and we have a cat we love to pieces. 2 failed transfers for us, in addition to 1 failed cycle because my body is just… dumb. Wishing you lots of good luck and love for your eventual rainbow baby ❤️
Infertility mama here too. We’re still digging out financially from our oldest. But we managed to have 3 beautiful babies and it was worth it despite multiple years of losses and infertility. We were ready to just be dog parents and give up.
Best of luck to you! Check out r/infertility if you haven't already. That community is the only reason I kept my sanity during IVF.
Be careful in that sub I was bullied in there for asking questions when I was doing IVF and found it emotionally distressing.
Sending you all the best wishes. We finally had our rainbow baby after 4 retrievals and 5 failed transfers, plus a miscarriage before IVF. Hang in there and keep fighting!!!
Sorry you’re dealing with infertility. You are not alone. We’ve stopped trying at this point because I couldn’t handle it anymore. Kuddos to the people who keep at it because after 2 yrs of treatments and procedures, I was ready to throw myself off a cliff (seriously). Accepting the hand I was dealt has been the last 6 months of my life, and while I of course still want a baby, I gave up on trying because of how deep in depression I became. I hope you have a different outcome. ✨✨✨
Good luck with IVF. My wife had to take all sorts of things to be able to get pregnant
i did the ivf thing in 2022, it was brutal. hope it goes smooth and you get everything you want out of that process!!
All the best to you & your husband! Once you hold your rainbow baby in your arms, this struggle will have all been worth it. Congrats on your career success, happy marriage and of course, your lovely dog. :)
Born in 89, married, stay-at-home parent to two kids. Just barely scraping by on my spouse's income but childcare would cost more than my paycheck if I went to work so it's actually cheaper for me to stay home. Life's not great but my kids are happy and healthy so that's what matters.
I was talking with a coworker friend at work about tax season and she was bummed she was only getting a $1,200 rebate for the money she spent on childcare (daycare). Told her that sounds pretty nice still. She replied while it was better than nothing she spent over $20k on daycare this year and that was just for her one daughter. My jaw hit the floor. Told me it was just under $500 every week. How the fuck are people paying $500/week for childcare is beyond me.
Yeah it is insane. And my stepson has ADHD and ASD so that makes finding childcare that can deal with his issues even harder and more expensive. The only reason we can make it is because my FIL passed away and left my spouse his house. It's not very big and not in the best shape but it's a roof over our heads with no rent or mortgage which puts us in a better position than a lot of our generation.
Omg, are you me? Samesies to literally everything. Although I do think my life is great
I mean life is pretty great apart from stressing about lack of funds a lot lol. And our families live over an hour away so we have no help with the kiddos.
This is very close to my situation now too. I do not miss the corporate world, but I do miss being good at my job. It's not worth the time I could be spending with my babies and spouse though.
Under two hours away isn’t so bad, do the kids like to visit family on weekends ever to give you both some time alone? I’m also a SAHM, 4 kids. My mom lives two hours away and occasionally “borrows” a couple kids for a weekend here and there. Everyone else is 12 hours away.
Same! No family help, they live far away. Stress about money (and climate, and the future...) is the only downside, otherwise really happy with my kids and family situation.
Similar but 90. One kid, stay at home for the time being, married. We can’t afford childcare at the rate it is in our area (about $2k a month) so I had to fall on my sword in regards to my career because of this. I work in natural resources so the money just isn’t flowing in the field (I never thought I’d have a kid so it was never a factor in my career choices) while my spouse is more marketable. My daughter is happy but, man, am I fucking depressed. My spouse is very supportive about me wanting to resume my career though. But times are rough.
This hits too close to home lol. Born in 88 married 2 kids. I work from home and my wife is a stay at home mom. We're in the same boat scraping by and just trying to keep afloat.
86 here. Married with one kid. Gainfully employed and own my home in a nice suburb with great schools. Life is good
I'm exactly you.
Born in 86, married this past Oct, just had my first kid in Dec, plus 2 dogs and a cat. Oh I’m a teacher and my husband is a plumber. Very happy with my life though I wish my pay was better and students were more respectful & did their work 😂
Teachers deserve like double or more what they make. I could never do it. Respect.
True Hero right here , rock on.
'87, gay (if that matters to anyone reading this), and married for nearly 6 years (wife is '85) and we have two kids. We are both employed, me in manufacturing and her in state government. Allows us to just eek into the middle class life we want.
Lovely! 🥰
Made it to my career, but now transitioning to another area that I also love. Making good money and living in a loft in a major city. Single and dating around. I don't really feel lonely as I have different types of friends (e.x. single, married, kids, no kids, etc). Word of advice, comparing yourself to others put a damper on your joy. Pursuing what you want, not mother how big or small, regardless of what others are doing, will make life more fulfilling. 86 baby here
"comparison is the thief of joy"
1990. Married, two years into being a stay at home wife.
Man I want to be a stay at home wife.
I wanna be a stay at home dog
I wanna stay at home with my cats.
I just want to stay home
I just want a home
And my axe!
It’s all good until the cats “need their space”
Same. My dog doesn’t contribute to these bills, yet he has free room and board. He naps all day without a care in the world…must be nice.
When my dog isn’t at home napping, it’s because I took him to daycare to play. Jesus. I guess not having kids allows for that. I always ask my dog why he hasn’t found a damn job.
I just want a home
Well played
Same for me. I tell people I’m a stay at home pet parent. Feel a bit like a unicorn in my circles since friends my age are either single and struggling or in a stressful relationship and struggling. Also, people tell me they are jealous of how lucky I am while simultaneously implying I must be lazy or something, it’s odd.
90, Male, Married. No kids and no plans for them. Active Duty Space Force as a Cyber Operator. Joined to escape poverty, should make 90-120k when I get out in 14 months.
What is a cyber operator? Sounds interesting
Its not as cool as it sounds, essentially its blue team cyber Anti-hacking/cyber defense. A big chunk of it is staring at a SEIM alert system waiting for something dubious looking to pop up so the team can investigate and find out it some other unit running a test they told no one about.
those silent tests keep you on your toes!
Single and make good money thanks to a union job where I work long hours. I don't think there's any mystery to why people working low paying jobs feel more stress and possibly embarrassment. Its just basic economics, not culture or society. Being single is a more complex conversation. I just roll my eyes when people give me a hard time about it. Try to explain my view on it best as I can, but I tend to learn more about other people's insecurities when they act like it's so strange to be single.
My oldest son is 33 and there is no woman in his life and people keep asking me why. I’m like, I guess he doesn’t want one there! He had some bad dating in college and hates drama.
That’s honestly the gist of it. I was single for 7 years before I met the woman I’m dating now, and if something causes us to fall apart, I honestly don’t know if I’ll bother dating again 😂.
I’ve been with my husband for 15 years and I will never get married again if I am somehow single again. I love my husband and he is my best friend, but I don’t think the stresses and efforts of marriage or a long term relationship would be for me a second time.
that and I've been with my spouse so long I can't even fathom what dating would be like. I've never had to do it and never want to.
Yeah, I started dating my first husband at 19 and we divorced when I was 30. Starting dating again at 31 and realizing that I didn't know how to do it as an adult was super weird and uncomfortable. But I guess I got the hang of it, and ended up remarried. I hope I don't have to do it again though.
I was widowed at 31 after 8 years of marriage. I had a brief ill advised second marriage, which produced my now 4 year old daughter. My mom doesn’t understand why I say I’m never getting married again. I’m like “number one, I’m not trying to be the Ross Geller of our family, but number two, I am very content with my life being just me and my daughter.” I don’t want anyone else living in my house. I was open to marriage after my first husband died because I wanted to be a mom (though if I hadn’t met my ex I would have pursued pregnancy via sperm donor). But I’m not having any more kids and I can do anything I want to do either on my own, with my kid, or with family or friends. Going out on dates sometimes would be nice but I’m not interested in marriage at all.
As a woman in a rural area I love telling people that I’m not married and never want to be. It’s fun to watch their brains explode
1990, happily married, stay at home mom
Same
Born in 87: divorced but coupled with a new partner, fully employed but hardly surviving income wise.
1985. Single. Stuck in a dead end job. I seem to be cursed with an infuriating amount of bad luck that can't possibly be a coincidence. It seems to me no matter how much or how little effort I devote to anything the result is always identical. I can't be bothered anymore. I have given up.
I’m sorry, homie. I hope your luck turns around this year! You got this!
Please don’t give up!
Single. Several medium-long term relationships. No big drama, just none of them felt quite right to take that next step towards marriage. Still hoping my person is out there. And still happy I didn’t settle for not quite right.
Female, born 1990, married 8 years, one kid, house, car, dog, working as a paralegal.
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‘86 babies! Same and similar field.
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I may be a little biased, but I’m going to have to agree with you there.
I'm same yr, worked in banking for a few months after 10 yrs in travel... my job was killed during the pandemic. Now I work in insurance, for a brokerage company. It's... interesting.
1987. Married since 2017. One kid. Work in banking/finance.
1986 but same
91 Divorced and Single No kids Recently unemployed Moved back in with my mother to try and start over (absolutely horrific I may add).
This whole thread has made me depressed 😔 85 bad job living with in-laws and no end in sight.
There are trade offs to everything. I’m single at 35 (89) and I live alone with a ton of farm animals. I love them and have a good paying job, but often feel like I could’ve/should’ve done more to be married and have kids. You should be thankful you are married. The dating scene is terrifying right now. At least you have a partner in this crazy mess of a world. But I get it, there are trade offs to different lives/lifestyles. Don’t beat yourself up too much, and I’ll try not to do that to myself as well, hah.
You're only 35. If the partner's meant to be they will show up. The dating scene is awful. It's funny I never feel unhappy being single until I try to date!
I feel the same way- if it’s meant to be it’ll be. Although I can’t help but be bitter and feel like my clock is ticking if I wanna have kids with the right person…and after just getting out of a 9 year relationship I feel I was robbed of it in a way. But I am trying to be positive.
I had to move in with my parents in my early 30s when I got divorced due to being broke. Result was being able to finish my abandoned degree and go from making 40k to 129k. It can work out. Just utilize the time wisely and leave better than you arrived.
It's pretty rough when your mother is overbearing and treats you like a child. I get questioned all the time and I have little freedom. She infantalizes me most of the time. I'm a little girl, not a 32 year old woman lol
Keep going, do what you have to do, and please keep the hope!! It won't be like this forever. I was in your position 2 years ago after a divorce, and dealing with recurring bouts of covid that left some permanent health issues I was just trying to figure out. I had to move states and look for a new job, and moved in with my parents. I needed a couple months to get my mental health in order (after escaping a traumatic situation), get my strength/health back, and look for a job. Nearly immediately, one parent's untreated mental disorder started having a very bad effect on me. Like you have experienced, with the constant watching and infantalizing, and it seemed like they wanted to take over every aspect of my life and control it, and normally I would appreciate the help/concern but it was very bad advice and just overreactions to various fears/anxiety, rather than conscious planning. But finally I had enough money to move out, and where I am now, I am happier than ever. Please do not lose the hope, you will be there soon, at a place of your own!!! It will be worth it! I am 1990, divorced, single, and no kids. And I have had to switch careers; due to my new health issues, I cannot risk getting sick. My doctor told me to "run from [my previous] job as fast as you can" and look for at-home work. So now I am a customer service rep, answering phones all day, helping people with their issues over the phone. Its a cut in pay but I've found working from home is way less stressful, so it's a fair trade IMO.
89, divorced, single, 1 kid, most likely going to move in with my parents this summer in an attempt to start over. I get it. Best of luck to you.
89, married, baby on the way, attorney.
Born in 87, Married for 12 years, 4 kids, Working in manufacturing training (for ever)
I was born in 84, and my husband in 85. I'm an astrophysicist, he's a pharmacist, and we've been married for 18 years, (together for 21).
I would invite the hell out of you two to parties. An astrophysicist and a pharmacist? Drugs and the universe, the universe and drugs. That's a hell of a night.
Husband (84) and I (86) own and run a business together. Own a house and plan on dying here. We've been together for 13 years. He's the absolute love of my life and if he died tomorrow I'd spend the rest of my life mourning him and trying to make him proud. I'd never have another romantic relationship ever. No kids, two dogs. When these dogs are gone we are done. We really care about the environment and do everything we can to do our part. We care about our employees and their well being/lifestyle. We are constantly busy and run down, but this is our best life.
1990, female. I have a small mental health business and I’m a mental health counselor. Got married in 2022, pregnant by the end of 2022, and we now have our first child. My husband was born in 91, is a neuropsychologist (PsyD), I’m his second marriage, and he’s in the USAF. He also has a son from that first marriage (it did not last long). So we have a blended up crazy life but we love it.
Sounds pretty cool.
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My partner and I are the same about marriage and children. We have plants instead of a dog (for now).
1988. Married, one kid, stay at home wife/mom. Husband works remotely in tech.
Late 84 so I will respond, I am disabled and have no job or relationship. I will likely die on the streets because I will have no kids to care for me and won’t be able to afford a care home .i am very depressed reading this as not one person is in my situation and most here seem to be excelling . This post made me feel like a loser and I am a year older than the age range you listed . How the hell did people of me generation find good jobs that pay a living wage ? I thought more millennials were child free too because who can afford kids ? This made me feel like shit and killed my confidence.
Most people who are struggling don’t have the courage to comment. My brother, 88 still lives at our parents home with not too many prospects. I am doing fine myself after making a hard pivot in my career but find the next steps of my life less inspiring because I am mostly in the service of others.
My ex (88) lives with his sister rent free in a HCOL area. He is basically the house boy and his parent’s friends keep him in sporadic work. He peaked in hs and early 20’s when he was a star athlete and bro. After he failed out of college he started coaching snowboarding. His ex cheated on him with an instagram influencer and he found himself back home (sister-84) who has a masters, coaches and sport and works 2/3 other jobs and owns her home. His best friends are stay at home dads with successful wives or wealthy wives. This is his dream. He is currently dating a 38 year old from a wealthy family with a professional career so he may get his wish.
Edit: he cheated on me with her (she knows nothing about me). He didn’t tell me until after he’d been sleeping with her and decided he wanted to date her. So yeah, I’m bitter lol
Forget him! You are too good for you to be thinking about him. Life is unfair, though. I’ll say that.
> Most people who are struggling don’t have the courage to comment. Granted I'm not a regular here, but that is a stark difference between this thread and nearly every other thread that has popped up on my feed from this sub. Those other threads have very much been overwhelmingly dominated by the voices of people who are struggling, to the point where talking about personal victory or overcoming a generational hurdle feels subversive and inappropriate.
Please do not compare yourself to anyone in this post. "Comparison is the thief of joy". I prayed that your life will change for the good. This post quickly turned into a humble brag or something similar of that sort. Everyone is responding to the title question and I don't know if anyone actually read the post description or answered the question the description.
Don't judge yourself by comparison with others like OP is trying to do. Just focus on where you are. The most important step isn't the first one, it's the next one. Always the next one.
Don’t feel bad. You can’t do anything about being disabled and no one should judge you for it. Live the best life you can. And it’s 100% true millennials did not have as many kids because of money. A lot of people comment because they want to show off how well they’re doing. That’s not typical. Many, many people are struggling. And a lot struggle but lead happy lives because while money can make life easier but it’s not the only thing that makes someone happy. I work with a lot of people who make good money who are miserable.
88 here. Also have a disability but not disabled enough to receive SSDI. Recently single, recently unemployed (both by choice). Don't make enough money to have kids so why get married to someone who wants them (why get contractually married at all at this point) and why work for wages that barely pay rent/food/utilities with nothing leftover. I'm moving into my SUV and becoming a "human tumbleweed." Fuck it.
Your post inspired me. I know that sounds weird but when I read it your rebellious determined spirit really stuck out. I have a feeling you’re going to come out on top. I also have a disability but if I could get SSDI it would be a nightmare of red tape to accomplish. So I got so sick at one point that I was ready to quit my job. I lost a ton of money from my salary by going way over my allotted sick days but I filed FMLA and was at least able to keep the job. Eventually I became burnt out and took another job that was a change and a bit of a gamble. I kinda felt the same you’re feeling. Like just fuck it whatever happens happens. And it turned out okay for me and now I can see myself being able to hold down a full time job because I ended up with a much better work/life balance. Don’t give up. Sometimes doing something crazy is exactly what you need. Good luck!
I was scanning the comments looking for a post like this lol I’m a May 87, 37 in 2024, mentally disabled who’s struggled socially my whole life. I make money, but it’s sex work lol Never been in a relationship and no kids either (don’t want them in my situation). What helps me is trying to at least cognitively (even if I can’t emotionally) be glad for people who fit into society more. At least they haven’t had to suffer in the same way I have.
When questions like this get asked, it usually attracts the people who are doing well to come on and brag. No one is gonna enthusiastically jump in the thread and say they make 35K. You’re not a loser. I hope things get better for you. 😊
I think the demographic on Reddit probably leans toward certain groups. You are not alone. I’m born in 85, from low-SES family. And I’m an unpaid, triple, and multigenerational, caregiver. That means I care for three dependents from three different generations and I don’t get to claim them, or build my social security because I’m unpaid. So I’m looking at no support in my later years either. Hoping for a state hospital to pick me up when I reach that stage 🤞
Ok so I'm a little confused about this so please school me if I'm wrong. You get 4 social security credits a year for working, right? And need 40 to qualify. So you only need to work for 10 years to qualify for social security. I started working (officially) at 16. But full time at 18, so now in my mid-thirties, even if I were to not work for the rest of my life, I'd still qualify for social security wouldn't I?
The more you put in the more the payment is. So if they aren’t working and had low paying jobs, they’re probably looking at minimal to laughable social security that probably would barely cover groceries. They calculate based off your highest 35 yrs of pay. So sure, you could have decent social security, but if you were in low paying jobs and didn’t “contribute” as much, you’re SOL. The things they failed to teach us.
85, I would be in your situation if it weren't for my mom and step mom. Not disabled though. No kids. No job. I was evicted during the pandemic and would of been living on the streets if it weren't for my mom. So i ended up in the basement of my childhood home with 2 cat siblings. When i came home my narcissistic step dad went insane, told me to "get the fuck out of his house." He was removed and starved himself to death so he could die on xmas. My step mother is a rich heiress of my inventor dad. He died in 2014 and got all the money but feels guilty since my sister is doing well and i am not. Meanwhile, she has 2 apartments in NYC and Boca. She... is the reason I survive, stuffing my bank whenever i am about to overdraft. Have you considered kittens?
Don’t feel bad! I’m an 86 baby and just had to move back in with my elderly mother because they raised the rent in my area. I’m single, no kids, and unemployed because I couldn’t handle the career that I was in. It sucks sometimes but my friends have gotten me through a lot of my self doubt. And honestly I’ve gone through some tough losses these last 5 years. Just being here, alive, with ability to still experience the good things this world has been enough.
Only the people who are doing well want to comment. And remember, this is Reddit which, despite how it may seem, is only a small fraction of the world. Please do not compare yourself on here
Married for a bit over 7 years. DINKs. No previous marriage. Work in corporate recruiting.
'85. Married 7 years (after dating for 8), 2 kids. I've been working in IT for the last 7 years, don't get paid nearly enough.
Just managed to get free from an abusive relationship in December. He destroyed my life, especially socially. People think he’s wonderful and is held in high esteem. (I mean, I fell for it, too…) He started rumors about me I can’t come back from, including in my career. Now I’m living with a friend’s parents trying to put my life back together and get my health in order. (A lot of health issues from cancer surgery and treatment.) My life is an actual dumpster fire. I lost my job when I found out I had cancer and haven’t been able to work since but I was denied disability. Now I have to figure out bankruptcy, disability, etc. and find a way to get an income ASAP.
Born in 90, married almost 2 years, currently 6 months pregnant with my first, and I work in clinical trial regulations almost at 6 figures.
1989, married with 2 kids, career as a technical writer at an amazing company. It wasn't always like that. After high school, I spent about 9 years stuck in retail hell at Sears. Lots of debt and small apartments Even when I was a department lead/assistant store manager, I couldn't help but feel a twinge of failure when I'd run into a classmate who was a bioengineer, or had bought a house and was otherwise debt free. I finally got my degree and career in tech writing at 28. Things have been great since, but I've learned a lot. If I run into an acquaintance, I will not ask what they do or talk about my job unless they ask. It's a bit tougher running into them at their work. I'll smile and acknowledge them, but I won't try to catch up unless they want to. Sometimes they're excited to see an old friend, other times the keep their head down or run off to the back room.
Married, 3 kids and recent house purchase we severely regret due to repairs and overall cost. Renting was cheaper and that sunk money could be making us more money in smart investments.
The AI data scrapers are gonna love all the octogenarians in this thread moving back in with their parents.
Married for 10+ years. Kids, house, job. All of my friends are the same except for 1 life long bachelor.
1985, my husband and kids and I are living with my parents in my (much expanded, dad’s a building contractor) childhood home and we run a food service business out of a rented kitchen; we’re poor as fuck right now but have good state insurance (Washington) and healthcare and my parents are living more comfortably in retirement in part because of our occupational and housing choices.
89 female, married in 2019. No kids (I'm sterile now woot!) But we have 2 cats and I rescue plants. I have had a few job changes but nothing really "career-esque." I am still in Food & Beverage but have an opportunity to pursue events. My husband was HVAC (81') but got hurt, so he's raking in very minimal income. Overall we are not *struggling* but definitely can't take vacations or pay my car off.
85, divorced (back in 2016), no kids (thank fuckin god), work in redacted. My parents keep ask from time to time if I'm seeing anyone and I date, but I don't know if I wanna do the serious thing again. I'm lonely, but I'll survive.
Why 85 as the start time? Just curious
OP is born in 1987 and mentioned it being their closest friends group. Makes sense to me.
85: single, decent paying job that I enjoy. No plans for children. I enjoy my life, travel a lot, do what I want to do when I want to do it!
87, married in 2020. Do not own property. My company was bought for parts aug 22 and laid off everyone, Wife quit her job may 23, cashed out some stock and we travelled for 6 months (2 in Europe) cuz we didn’t want to wait when we were “retired” for that kind of experience. Have friends with high paying jobs who have homes and kids, but most seem miserable.
Statistically most people aren't going to have a high paying job. So your experience fits with a narrow anecdotal group. Maybe you are from a wealthy area or all your friends are wealthy overachievers.
87, married, 2 children, unioned steel worker for 11 years
Born in 87, single, no kids, work in healthcare, and a homeowner. Also have one dog and two cats.
89 married two kids. I own a small business.
85, married SAHM.
1986, married, two kiddos, used to be a teacher but it made more sense financially to stay at home and raise the kids. They are almost school aged so I’ll be jumping back into the workforce soon, but probably private tutoring. I’d rather not teach again, especially after covid. I’ve heard it’s a hell scape out there.
85, single, no kids never married. Fully employed. 100k yearly. But facing layoffs and drowning in debt
Late 84 here. Single. Good job; molecular biologist. Lots of friends and active social life. I’m living pretty comfortably but costs have gone up a lot more than my salary the past couple years. I have a nephew; brother born 86 and married.
85 married, male, 2 kids, lawyer. I struggled early on in my career, and was embarrassed by that, but things have been good since I turned 30
86, single. Was just laid off but previously making almost 200k total comp.
85, female, single, no kids, attorney.
87, female, married, one kid. I tried being a Realtor after the kid was born, couldn't cut it with expenses and lack of childcare. I clean houses now, working more now that kid is in school. Husband was an EMT when we married, switched to the USPS because he made more money there. We don't have any extra help from anyone, and our bills are outrageous. Wish I could get a regular full time job with benefits, but daily scheduling makes it impossible until kid is old enough to be left alone a few hours after school, which will be at least 6 years from now.
85, married, 1 toddler and another on the way, 3 cats, doc, paid off my student loans this month.
Single and childless, as I never in a million years wanted a family after growing up in mine. Switching careers from education to nursing, nannying to make ends meet.
1986, married 10+ years, 4 kids. My wife and I both work in healthcare. She is a cancer surgeon and I'm director of predictive health (AI development and integration) for a large health system.
87 married for almost 5 years to an 85, expecting our first in May. Both work remote office jobs, live in the Bay Area and none of our friends have kids. Our Midwest friends (originally from Chicago) almost all have at least 1
86 Male, married since 2012, two kids, work in IT
1988. I'm a civil servant, my wife is a teacher. One child. Comfortably middle class.
Born 89. Married, two kids. Software developer
1987, divorced, working as an IT systems engineer mostly remote. I'm hoping to find someone that wants to have kids. My ex-wife changed her mind and decided she didnt want kids any more, ending the marriage.