She wants to keep window shopping. Once she gets bored or reality sets in, as soon as anything "better" comes along (better can be anything where she can project an imaginary ideal scenario) she's outta there.
Key phrasing- girlfriend vs girl friend
Why spend time banging a girl that’s not serious? Op could miss his princess charming fiddling around with ms “I’m still adding to my roster” but that’s just my opinion
Edit: it sounds like she wants an open relationship and everyone in here with general life experience knows how that’ll go 99% of the time. She’s gonna be getting absolutely smashed by a whole team of dudes while op pretends to be ok with it because he’s dating like one other girl… just my opinion
I would absolutely in no way shape or form take a relationship with that woman with any sense of depth or sincerity, just my opinion
Nah....She just looking to bang more dude...
Had one like this...not do nice feeling when you know someone might banging your girl....
OP stay the fck away...She use you for dick,money,attention n when she don't get what she wants move to the other dick...thats how this will work.
Yep. Basically seems like they aren’t together, imo. Basically they’re just friends with benefits, but as soon as she sees another guy she wants something from or whatever, he’s gonna be an “Eskimo bro” and so on, until she has her full roster of “friends” or she finds a guy she wants to settle down with.
If op is ok just banging his female homie then cool… just imo seems like that’s really all there is to it. If he isn’t ok with that, don’t do it. Just my 2 cents
Its fun for a while but as I said once they found an another dick they move and you will be presented whit an option to stay "Friends" which in reality she will ask favor,do things for her for a slight chance you get lucky(you won't i'll let you know ahead)
Yeah is OP happy to give up his worth go whit it.Personally I won't be ever.Experienced it n its soul destroying.
Unfortunately in the current climate, we have to put up with shitty behaviour from attractive women since there are so few fit ones left. 30% are obese... It's not a buyer's market. Or be alone. Or just pay if you want honestly with your sex.
My ex wife started dating a guy a few years back, and he wanted her to fuck around on him and then describe it to him in bed.
People have some pretty odd kinks.
Someone wrote the other day 'change the names in your story and think about what you'd say to those people in their situation' and I think that's very interesting.
Things like "hey your girlfriend wants to keep looking for options and has presented this in a way that you get to have no grounds to be upset about"
I am sorry for saying this but it is obvious why she is treating OP like that.
The fact that he is even asking this here and couldn't make a decision so far says a lot.
OP is a doormat who allows his girlfriend to treat him any which way. That's why she stays with him but has the audacity to tell him she's going to continue using Tinder.
She knows he's not going to do anything but whimper and run to social media for advice on what to do.
He isn't to blame for her actions. He's to blame for allowing himself to be treated poorly. I do blame him for having a problem with something and being afraid to address it. Nobody else is going to stand up for him.
You do know that you don’t have to accept things in YOUR relationship that you are uncomfortable with, right? Lol.
I can almost assure you that she has no interest in whatever the hell is happening with your tinder. Lol. She is, however, very much invested in her tinder.
Anyway, just break up with her bro. Find another girlfriend that isn’t interested in maintaining an active dating profile while being in a relationship.
No no, it's very clear the rule is don't meet the people. She made the rule that's how you know she would never break it
What is the potential appeal if we assume she is earnest and true? She just likes sexting? Is talking to dudes on dating apps without meeting up a hobby? Where is the reality in this
I think this is really important, I’m so confused if you are dating does that mean you are dating lots of people or only dating one person? If there is no conversation about exclusivity then I think she’s communicating that she is dating. Maybe she wants you to ask her for something serious.
How long have you been together? It is highly possible she is looking for a backup because if you both like each other, there is no reason to keep browsing random people on a dating app.
You asking this tells me you are very naive and do not have a lot of experience with women and she clearly knows that you don’t
She is going to string you along in this “relationship” while she fucks other guys on tinder. If/when she finds someone she likes more than you she will most likely dump you but you will be a placeholder boyfriend till then
Her saying that you can be on tinder too is simply so she does not feel guilty for flirting and fucking other men. She could care less if you find other girls and if I were to guess, I would bet that she does not think you’re capable of finding another girl/girls since she has the audacity to tell you that you can be on tinder
Not only that, if op hooks up with another woman on Tinder(highly unlikely), chances are his gf will go apeshit on him for breaking the rules she established on him.
He should do it
Edit: okay, so I was in a similar situation where gf suggested we do polyamory. So I say sure why not. I start dating other people, keeping her in the loop the entire way. She got jealous, threw a fit, and that was the end of us.
The point is, you can play along and see what's out there or if you don't want to, don't waste your time and leave the relationship. Either way, do what you're comfortable with. Fuck around and find out or say you don't want to date that way. Either way, do what you want to do.
Sorry dude. She just wants to keep raw dogging dudes from tinder. By having you use the app too it will allow her to avoid suspicion. And now if you ever bring it up she will say that you use it too and it’s not a big deal. RUN
What are you 32 or 18? That doesn’t even make any sense why you would be entertaining this. Just let our girlfriend come over our place when she wants, and you play the field as well.
To be as naive as OP. Wow. Anecdotally I've met men who drive with this logic and it's always been that they want to have their cake and eat it in that they want someone consistently on the back burner while they sift through a picture book
You have more feelings than she does by the sounds of things
This is not a test, this is someone that doesn’t think she’s in an exclusive relationship. Zero reason to be on tinder if you’re in an exclusive relationship. She’s basically saying we’re cool to have EAs. And I’d you think that they won’t become PA’s, I have a bridge I’d like to sell you.
This is how she keeps “shopping” and finds other guys to bang and if you catch her Tinder profile she plays it off as your “game” with each other.
Just nope on right out of that high traffic zone
There are only two options.
1. She is a self centered person that needs the attention of other men and from flirting with them. She honestly thinks (at this point) it's enough for her to be "queen bee" on tinder and have some drones.
2. She actually wants an open relationship and is just selling it this way to you, knowing that with the imposed 'rules' you will not have success on Tinder while she will.
I personally don't find any of the scenarios attractive for you.
I have no objections against polygamy, open relationships, whatever one's lifestyle is. But it has to be consensual by both with equal say in how it works out.
Unless.you haven't painted a distorted picture, here your girlfriend is gaslighting you.
She may have a fetish its fulfilling, either on your part or hers, or something nefarious. “No” is a complete sentence though, and if you are uncomfortable with that situation after some open communication its ok to realize you have incompatible relationship goals and walk away.
Yall are just hooking up but shes gonna try to make you not sleep with people and find out what you say to girls and complain about it while shes way more popular on tinder as the ratio is like 10 to 1 for men vs women and she will just not tell you when she hooks up with someone, ull end up with an std or raising someones kid or just giving her money until she splits saying something like "you're crazy" whenever yoy say reasonable things, which is called gaslighting but hey she holds all the power and knows it and likes it, you need to somehow find one just as hot but with more morals if ur going to be exclusive
Just tell her some fake stories of girls you're talking to. Then start to act like you don't have an interest in her. She wants to play games, drive her crazy. (Lock all kitchen utensils up)
I might be 32 but I am not that experienced in dating, I've only been in 3 very long term relationships that lasted years. Last time I was with someone new I was 23.
I can almost guarantee you she doesn’t give a fuck about your tinder. She’s just saying that so you agree with the terms, but it sounds to me like she is super invested in her tinder and is probably talking to multiple men already. Stay clear and kick her to the curb, she belongs to the streets. Save yourself some more heartache
Not being an azzhole, but you would be an idiot to take that. The fact she wants to keep talking to other dudes is obvious why, she says you can tell her or not about the conversations…but why have the conversations at all ON TINDER if you are not meeting up? Like leading other people on? Window shopping? No way that’s a good thing for a honest relationship. Who even knows how honest she could be about the idea anyways.
If she feels the need to talk to other men like that
If its not your standard get out now dont waste years on what will turn into a hoe. She will move the line when eva she FEELS lije it.
Get her to write your profile. Get a shining review off her and then trade up.
I had one insist on me doing tinder, wrote my profile, made me go on dates. Then I came home from work one day and she was gone. Just moved back in with her parents. Couldn’t give a reason. Wasn’t seeing anyone else behind my back either from what we could all figure out. She just went weird.
Don’t mean to sound rude, just truthful. She would put a better effort into making you feel valid if she truly cared and you don’t need to be strung along. So it’s a win win, keep focusing on yourself and move on
Let your girl feel free to do what she wants to do. If you still respect her choices and love her, it’s real. But if you’re telling her what to do, one day it will fail.
What are you 32 or 18? That doesn’t even make any sense why you would be entertaining this. Just let our girlfriend come over our place when she wants, and you play the field as well.
This is some sh\*t test your gf is giving you, or she basically might just want an excuse to go talk to guys. She very clearly knows guys are gonna give her attention and flirt with her so it won't just be talking to people on tinder.
She likes the attention. Go have an honest talk with her cuz it would only get more uncomfortable.
This seems like it might be a bleed over into a non-monogamous relationship. Kind of on you to steer it to ethical NM or poly status if that is your thing.
My wife and I both have tinder, feeld and okc accounts and we discuss our matches and swipes. We are open but that’s what we have negotiated in our life.
I guess it really depends. If you had asked me a (long time ago), I'd have said "screw that"... But after being around life several times over ... I would say "it depends on the situation and what you're comfortable with".,
What changed my perspective on this were two of my uncles' relationships. One on each side of the ra!ily, each with their own kind of open relationship.
One of my uncles used to be the stern, silent type. 6"2, well built, handsome and had a storied life. He's been everything from a bounty hunter, to a zookeeper, a limo driver for famous people, a bodyguard ...etc. He's traveled the world and done/seen a lot.
His first marriage was a flop but resulted in one of my cousins.
His second marriage changed him. He went from the "strong, silent" type to being outgoing, smiling and even laughing (I had never seen him do any of these things, growing up). He is genuinely happy with this woman.
Anyway, I found out that they had certain ...."arrangements".
So, because he travels a lot ... She doesn't see him in person for a few months out of the year. He lets her have a "sidepiece", while he's away. He actually suggested it.
Likewise, she also lets him fool around with other women if he feels the need to - but only while he's away.
Their agreement is that their hearts are mutually exclusive and when he's home, they're physically exclusive.
So far, they've been happily married for almost 15 years.
...
My other uncle has been with over 150 women (he's got a reputation), is covered in tattoos and has had a string of girlfriends. He's also well-off, financially. A self-made man.
He got ! married around 10 years ago to a kind, beautifu, successful l and faithful woman ... and she is fine with (and encourages) him to continue his "playboy ways" (as she calls it).
She says she knew who he was when she fell in love with him and doesn't seek to change him. They're happily married and he treats her like a queen. He's also settled down a bit over time.
So ...again I would say, "it depends on what you're comfortable with".
Me, personally? I'm a mutually exclusive guy ... The only type of scenario I'd possibly be fine with that occurring in ...is if we were very much in love and I was going to be away for a long stretch of time (human needs and all that) ...but then, even then I'm not sure.
That said, of you guys have only been dating for a while, I would take that as a sign that she isn't committed or she's looking for the door.
It's your relationship though. A relationship goes both ways and is one of commitment and compromise. If you aren't cool with what she's proposing and isn't willing to compromise, consider that a precursor of what's to come. ⚠️
Some people on dating apps use them as confirmation that they are attractive. Others like the flirt/bash aspect of it.
There is always the chance that a person finds someone else, apps or no apps.
It is what you both feel comfortable wirh.
First off your whipped she's got you by the short hairs. Grow up really fast. Agree and say OK no problem
Watch a porn than go and treat her exactly like you see those women being treated and she will obey. Because she's not ready yet and wants to explore, so either beat her to the punchline or have her rip your heart out. Start looking at other options and miss a few dates on purpose weeny boy or you will always be disrespected by her. What did you expect to find from a dating site anyway. I bet she was your first from The site. Mean while her and her BFF s are lining weenie boys like you back to back looking to find the one GUY that treats them like crap because that's what they think love is. Doesn't matter you will learn in 20 years or so your still too young to understand, just go lay down in front of the door.
Not sure you really get it. It's obvious you like her, you have 2 choices treat her differently or lose her. She is looking for a dominant figure so be the opposite of who you are. Agree and be first to not care and she will be like what's wrong with me why doesn't he care and will do everything under the sun to get your approval. Keep doing what your doing and she's gone with the next guy that's treats her with disrespect
Just watch these guys bang me if you really love and respect me, you’d be ok with these two hot guys having their way with me while you watch. Don’t you love meeeee?
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you don't have a girlfriend buddy
She wants to keep window shopping. Once she gets bored or reality sets in, as soon as anything "better" comes along (better can be anything where she can project an imaginary ideal scenario) she's outta there.
Or if you look at the bright side: you could have two soon!
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With the right women this could be great. High maintenance ones not so much
Key phrasing- girlfriend vs girl friend Why spend time banging a girl that’s not serious? Op could miss his princess charming fiddling around with ms “I’m still adding to my roster” but that’s just my opinion Edit: it sounds like she wants an open relationship and everyone in here with general life experience knows how that’ll go 99% of the time. She’s gonna be getting absolutely smashed by a whole team of dudes while op pretends to be ok with it because he’s dating like one other girl… just my opinion I would absolutely in no way shape or form take a relationship with that woman with any sense of depth or sincerity, just my opinion
Sounds like he’s in a relationship with her and she’s single
that's a sticky situationship....
Tinder fetish?
Nah....She just looking to bang more dude... Had one like this...not do nice feeling when you know someone might banging your girl.... OP stay the fck away...She use you for dick,money,attention n when she don't get what she wants move to the other dick...thats how this will work.
Exactly what I was thinking. What do you think would happen if they get into a serious fight?
Yep. Basically seems like they aren’t together, imo. Basically they’re just friends with benefits, but as soon as she sees another guy she wants something from or whatever, he’s gonna be an “Eskimo bro” and so on, until she has her full roster of “friends” or she finds a guy she wants to settle down with. If op is ok just banging his female homie then cool… just imo seems like that’s really all there is to it. If he isn’t ok with that, don’t do it. Just my 2 cents
Its fun for a while but as I said once they found an another dick they move and you will be presented whit an option to stay "Friends" which in reality she will ask favor,do things for her for a slight chance you get lucky(you won't i'll let you know ahead) Yeah is OP happy to give up his worth go whit it.Personally I won't be ever.Experienced it n its soul destroying.
Yeah. He doesn't have a girlfriend cause she seems not to love him..
Unfortunately in the current climate, we have to put up with shitty behaviour from attractive women since there are so few fit ones left. 30% are obese... It's not a buyer's market. Or be alone. Or just pay if you want honestly with your sex.
My ex wife started dating a guy a few years back, and he wanted her to fuck around on him and then describe it to him in bed. People have some pretty odd kinks.
She's not that into you.
Yeah. Op is a temporary boyfriend. This arrangement is fine as long as he isnt falling in love with her.
Sometimes I genuinely wonder if some people dont read what they write
Someone wrote the other day 'change the names in your story and think about what you'd say to those people in their situation' and I think that's very interesting. Things like "hey your girlfriend wants to keep looking for options and has presented this in a way that you get to have no grounds to be upset about"
I am sorry for saying this but it is obvious why she is treating OP like that. The fact that he is even asking this here and couldn't make a decision so far says a lot.
Cause she's a bad person? I hope you arent blaming OP for this one..
OP is a doormat who allows his girlfriend to treat him any which way. That's why she stays with him but has the audacity to tell him she's going to continue using Tinder. She knows he's not going to do anything but whimper and run to social media for advice on what to do.
Sounds like victim blaming to me!
He isn't to blame for her actions. He's to blame for allowing himself to be treated poorly. I do blame him for having a problem with something and being afraid to address it. Nobody else is going to stand up for him.
You're blaming the victim though lol
What am I blaming the victim for?
Idk how the fuck you're getting downvoted. So many incel "I'm an alpha" takes I guess.
Because the both of you are actually pretty fuckin dumb. That’s really about it.
You do know that you don’t have to accept things in YOUR relationship that you are uncomfortable with, right? Lol. I can almost assure you that she has no interest in whatever the hell is happening with your tinder. Lol. She is, however, very much invested in her tinder. Anyway, just break up with her bro. Find another girlfriend that isn’t interested in maintaining an active dating profile while being in a relationship.
Yup wtf lol, get rid of her now. Legit ignored stupid red flags like this my past relationship wasted 3 years for her to just be the same 304. Smh
304 - She belongs to the streets.
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exactly lmao she is invested in HER tinder. She wants an excuse to use it.
Yeah she just wants to be able to bang other people.
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Hell no. That’s weird af. She sounds immature. I would not put up with this. And wow she is 30 acting that way lol yikes
This behaviour is allways yikes no matter how old she is lol
That’s true but I’d think someone younger would act that way but some people never grow up
Sounds like you're in a non monogamous relationship
No no, it's very clear the rule is don't meet the people. She made the rule that's how you know she would never break it 
What is the potential appeal if we assume she is earnest and true? She just likes sexting? Is talking to dudes on dating apps without meeting up a hobby? Where is the reality in this
If she needs it for validation that's an even better reason to dump her, because she's a narcissist.
Does she know she’s your girlfriend?
I think this is really important, I’m so confused if you are dating does that mean you are dating lots of people or only dating one person? If there is no conversation about exclusivity then I think she’s communicating that she is dating. Maybe she wants you to ask her for something serious.
She doesnt want you to meet anyone but she also looks for other options
No, no, you see, she won't meet them in real life!
For now until she has an "accident".
> She says we can both talk to people on Tinder but we can never meet them irl. Sounds like she thinks men treat Tinder the way women do
We can't meet anyone, we can only waste other people's time!
Lmao 😂
She's just an attention seeker. That girl sounds like she'd fold the minute she gets tempted
How long have you been together? It is highly possible she is looking for a backup because if you both like each other, there is no reason to keep browsing random people on a dating app.
Run
“We can never meet them irl.” I’d bet $100 that she will not abide by this rule.
I'd bet she's already been meeting people, this is just the first time she's told the OP sort of what she's doing.
If she has feelings for you, she does not want to use Tinder. She wants better option and keep tabs on you, how you are doing on Tinder.
You asking this tells me you are very naive and do not have a lot of experience with women and she clearly knows that you don’t She is going to string you along in this “relationship” while she fucks other guys on tinder. If/when she finds someone she likes more than you she will most likely dump you but you will be a placeholder boyfriend till then Her saying that you can be on tinder too is simply so she does not feel guilty for flirting and fucking other men. She could care less if you find other girls and if I were to guess, I would bet that she does not think you’re capable of finding another girl/girls since she has the audacity to tell you that you can be on tinder
Not only that, if op hooks up with another woman on Tinder(highly unlikely), chances are his gf will go apeshit on him for breaking the rules she established on him.
He should do it Edit: okay, so I was in a similar situation where gf suggested we do polyamory. So I say sure why not. I start dating other people, keeping her in the loop the entire way. She got jealous, threw a fit, and that was the end of us. The point is, you can play along and see what's out there or if you don't want to, don't waste your time and leave the relationship. Either way, do what you're comfortable with. Fuck around and find out or say you don't want to date that way. Either way, do what you want to do.
Agreed, specially if she engages aswell. Then it's fairplay.
Sorry dude. She just wants to keep raw dogging dudes from tinder. By having you use the app too it will allow her to avoid suspicion. And now if you ever bring it up she will say that you use it too and it’s not a big deal. RUN
Pack your bag and move on son
Get out
She needs the attention. 🚩
That would weird me out a bit.
Break up with her if that’s not what you want.
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You started off wrong replace girlfriend with “Girl I met on Hinge” cause y’all damn sure ain’t exclusive
What are you 32 or 18? That doesn’t even make any sense why you would be entertaining this. Just let our girlfriend come over our place when she wants, and you play the field as well.
To be as naive as OP. Wow. Anecdotally I've met men who drive with this logic and it's always been that they want to have their cake and eat it in that they want someone consistently on the back burner while they sift through a picture book You have more feelings than she does by the sounds of things
Thanks for your comment, I see your point.
This is not a test, this is someone that doesn’t think she’s in an exclusive relationship. Zero reason to be on tinder if you’re in an exclusive relationship. She’s basically saying we’re cool to have EAs. And I’d you think that they won’t become PA’s, I have a bridge I’d like to sell you. This is how she keeps “shopping” and finds other guys to bang and if you catch her Tinder profile she plays it off as your “game” with each other. Just nope on right out of that high traffic zone
The odd thing is that she is super honest about anyone she matches with and even shows me the conversations. She says she wants to be monogamish.
Does that work for you? BC there’s ethnical non monogamy and there monogamy, -ish sounds like there’s IRL intentions. @ least to me.
🤣🤣 congrats you found yourself a hoe
Meh. Fuck around; find out.
She is; he won’t
She will; he will.
What girlfriend, you’re a side gig
She’s for the streets bro… set her free
Set her free lol
If you’re happy with your purchase you don’t keep browsing the catalogue
You're temporary until she finds something better. Get rid of her now!
I see your point
she belongs to the streets
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There are only two options. 1. She is a self centered person that needs the attention of other men and from flirting with them. She honestly thinks (at this point) it's enough for her to be "queen bee" on tinder and have some drones. 2. She actually wants an open relationship and is just selling it this way to you, knowing that with the imposed 'rules' you will not have success on Tinder while she will. I personally don't find any of the scenarios attractive for you. I have no objections against polygamy, open relationships, whatever one's lifestyle is. But it has to be consensual by both with equal say in how it works out. Unless.you haven't painted a distorted picture, here your girlfriend is gaslighting you.
Walk away buddy
Run.
She may have a fetish its fulfilling, either on your part or hers, or something nefarious. “No” is a complete sentence though, and if you are uncomfortable with that situation after some open communication its ok to realize you have incompatible relationship goals and walk away.
Sometimes walking away is the answer
Oof
“No” is a complete sentence, but I recommend following it immediately with “and I’m breaking up with you.”
She’s just keeping her options open.
RUN….
“Trust me, I’m just looking for friends”
The test is she wants to know if it's ok for her to cheat on you.
It’s a trap.
Yall are just hooking up but shes gonna try to make you not sleep with people and find out what you say to girls and complain about it while shes way more popular on tinder as the ratio is like 10 to 1 for men vs women and she will just not tell you when she hooks up with someone, ull end up with an std or raising someones kid or just giving her money until she splits saying something like "you're crazy" whenever yoy say reasonable things, which is called gaslighting but hey she holds all the power and knows it and likes it, you need to somehow find one just as hot but with more morals if ur going to be exclusive
I mean if you want an open relationship you could agree, otherwise I’d dump her and start looking for a new girlfriend.
Don't be a simp kid.
Just tell her some fake stories of girls you're talking to. Then start to act like you don't have an interest in her. She wants to play games, drive her crazy. (Lock all kitchen utensils up)
Lmao "lock all the kitchen utensils"
This is the way!
1: why though? 2: "I think she is going to be as disappointed as I was about my Tinder." LMAO
Lmao I get like a new match one per week and like 80% of those don't answer back or are fake
Bruh you're 32 you should know better
I might be 32 but I am not that experienced in dating, I've only been in 3 very long term relationships that lasted years. Last time I was with someone new I was 23.
Please OP, don't let this continue. Stand up for yourself and tell her "she's gonna need tinder anyways" cuz you're out of there
Thanks for your response. I see your point
Anything to help a brother who's struggling man. Stay strong, you'll find someone way better. I'm sure you have a heart of gold.
Thanks for that! I'll try
Sounds like cheating with extra steps… but honestly it sounds like shes addicted to the dopamine hits of attention on Tinder.
I think you're right. She has admitted to me that it gives her a thrill to match and talk to someone new
Shes going cause you pain and problems mate
I'l take your advice
Ouch. She isn't your girlfriend. Gate to tell you.
I see your point
I can almost guarantee you she doesn’t give a fuck about your tinder. She’s just saying that so you agree with the terms, but it sounds to me like she is super invested in her tinder and is probably talking to multiple men already. Stay clear and kick her to the curb, she belongs to the streets. Save yourself some more heartache
What's odd is that she is super honest about it and even shows me the conversations on Tinder
Lol she’s just not that into you. You’re her safety net
Either looking for the next guy or is attention seeking. Either way sounds like a red flag.
I think she has a tinder fetish
Well, as someone with the full picture, use your own best judgement.
Not being an azzhole, but you would be an idiot to take that. The fact she wants to keep talking to other dudes is obvious why, she says you can tell her or not about the conversations…but why have the conversations at all ON TINDER if you are not meeting up? Like leading other people on? Window shopping? No way that’s a good thing for a honest relationship. Who even knows how honest she could be about the idea anyways.
If she feels the need to talk to other men like that If its not your standard get out now dont waste years on what will turn into a hoe. She will move the line when eva she FEELS lije it.
Not your girlfriend just your turn bro. If she was into you as much as shes claimijg tinder would be gone.
Thats a good point
Don’t knock her up. Consider her as a temporary bang. If you can’t be with the one you love, love the one you’re with. 🤷♂️
Good advice
She basically said let’s see other people and you can tell me about it. If you want? Idk seems like you should definitely keep dating other people.
Get her to write your profile. Get a shining review off her and then trade up. I had one insist on me doing tinder, wrote my profile, made me go on dates. Then I came home from work one day and she was gone. Just moved back in with her parents. Couldn’t give a reason. Wasn’t seeing anyone else behind my back either from what we could all figure out. She just went weird.
She wanted you to go on dates? Were you guys like in an open relationship?
Run away and cut your losses. She will never commit.
“EJECT, EJECT,EJECT!!” -Maverick, 2023
Lmao love it
I hope these comments are enough evidence for you to realize the situation you're actually in.
It’s a test from God to see if you’re stupid enough to keep her
Lmao god be like tsk tsk tsk
Just leave lmao it’s a win win for both y’all cause it doesn’t sound like she wants you anyway
You might be right
Don’t mean to sound rude, just truthful. She would put a better effort into making you feel valid if she truly cared and you don’t need to be strung along. So it’s a win win, keep focusing on yourself and move on
Some times we need to hear it like it is
Let your girl feel free to do what she wants to do. If you still respect her choices and love her, it’s real. But if you’re telling her what to do, one day it will fail.
What are you 32 or 18? That doesn’t even make any sense why you would be entertaining this. Just let our girlfriend come over our place when she wants, and you play the field as well.
I think you should fuck her sister behind her back.
Share her profile bro
Lmao we can test if she wants to meet up irl
This is some sh\*t test your gf is giving you, or she basically might just want an excuse to go talk to guys. She very clearly knows guys are gonna give her attention and flirt with her so it won't just be talking to people on tinder. She likes the attention. Go have an honest talk with her cuz it would only get more uncomfortable.
I don't think this one's a shit test, I'm pretty sure she's just for the streets and wants to get plowed out by 50 other guys
Could just be that she’s hooked on the attention she gets on tinder. Either way, not good
Think I'd walk away from this one sir
Lmao brilliant.
This seems like it might be a bleed over into a non-monogamous relationship. Kind of on you to steer it to ethical NM or poly status if that is your thing. My wife and I both have tinder, feeld and okc accounts and we discuss our matches and swipes. We are open but that’s what we have negotiated in our life.
Yes, female logic
I guess it really depends. If you had asked me a (long time ago), I'd have said "screw that"... But after being around life several times over ... I would say "it depends on the situation and what you're comfortable with"., What changed my perspective on this were two of my uncles' relationships. One on each side of the ra!ily, each with their own kind of open relationship. One of my uncles used to be the stern, silent type. 6"2, well built, handsome and had a storied life. He's been everything from a bounty hunter, to a zookeeper, a limo driver for famous people, a bodyguard ...etc. He's traveled the world and done/seen a lot. His first marriage was a flop but resulted in one of my cousins. His second marriage changed him. He went from the "strong, silent" type to being outgoing, smiling and even laughing (I had never seen him do any of these things, growing up). He is genuinely happy with this woman. Anyway, I found out that they had certain ...."arrangements". So, because he travels a lot ... She doesn't see him in person for a few months out of the year. He lets her have a "sidepiece", while he's away. He actually suggested it. Likewise, she also lets him fool around with other women if he feels the need to - but only while he's away. Their agreement is that their hearts are mutually exclusive and when he's home, they're physically exclusive. So far, they've been happily married for almost 15 years. ... My other uncle has been with over 150 women (he's got a reputation), is covered in tattoos and has had a string of girlfriends. He's also well-off, financially. A self-made man. He got ! married around 10 years ago to a kind, beautifu, successful l and faithful woman ... and she is fine with (and encourages) him to continue his "playboy ways" (as she calls it). She says she knew who he was when she fell in love with him and doesn't seek to change him. They're happily married and he treats her like a queen. He's also settled down a bit over time. So ...again I would say, "it depends on what you're comfortable with". Me, personally? I'm a mutually exclusive guy ... The only type of scenario I'd possibly be fine with that occurring in ...is if we were very much in love and I was going to be away for a long stretch of time (human needs and all that) ...but then, even then I'm not sure. That said, of you guys have only been dating for a while, I would take that as a sign that she isn't committed or she's looking for the door. It's your relationship though. A relationship goes both ways and is one of commitment and compromise. If you aren't cool with what she's proposing and isn't willing to compromise, consider that a precursor of what's to come. ⚠️
Some people on dating apps use them as confirmation that they are attractive. Others like the flirt/bash aspect of it. There is always the chance that a person finds someone else, apps or no apps. It is what you both feel comfortable wirh.
First off your whipped she's got you by the short hairs. Grow up really fast. Agree and say OK no problem Watch a porn than go and treat her exactly like you see those women being treated and she will obey. Because she's not ready yet and wants to explore, so either beat her to the punchline or have her rip your heart out. Start looking at other options and miss a few dates on purpose weeny boy or you will always be disrespected by her. What did you expect to find from a dating site anyway. I bet she was your first from The site. Mean while her and her BFF s are lining weenie boys like you back to back looking to find the one GUY that treats them like crap because that's what they think love is. Doesn't matter you will learn in 20 years or so your still too young to understand, just go lay down in front of the door.
I mean if ai don't see it working I'll just end it
Not sure you really get it. It's obvious you like her, you have 2 choices treat her differently or lose her. She is looking for a dominant figure so be the opposite of who you are. Agree and be first to not care and she will be like what's wrong with me why doesn't he care and will do everything under the sun to get your approval. Keep doing what your doing and she's gone with the next guy that's treats her with disrespect
I mean, we need to see what she looks like tbf.
If she is hot enough to share? Or ugly enough so she gets messaged only by desperate guys?
Just watch these guys bang me if you really love and respect me, you’d be ok with these two hot guys having their way with me while you watch. Don’t you love meeeee?
Well, it’s up to you and what you want and are comfortable with.