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yes I'm aware, and I would totally get it if she doesn't wanna continue. and this is not an execute but I need someone who I can actually talk with and get to know, she had everything right, but being a potential LTR the only thing we had is texting which she wasn't used to. our conversations were dry and she never initiated a text, and it made me feel like she wasn't interested in me, and with me being depressed at the time I didn't know what to do
I don't think she ever "fell" for me, the text were dry from the beginning, but getting to know her more on the date made me attracted to her, but afterwards things went back to what it was, and it made me feel like she's not interested in me at all, and with being confused at the time I didn't know what to do
No. Just by the title, no.
After reading your post, still no. Forget about you and *you* being hurt for a moment.
Think about the other person.
Why? Would you like someone to play yo-yo with you, after they ghosted you, and you never heard another word or text from them, or got texts saying "hi, how are you doing" after they ghosted you?
Tip: Women don't like ghosting. Just tell us the simple truth and facts, or leave us alone. We're ok with that, instead of being ghosted, maybe unghosted, then getting contacted again by the same person who may or may not know what they want.
Just don't. She probably isn't even thinking of you. You ghosted her - that told her your decision, and it's very likely, she's moved on.
So should you.
Leave her be.
Leave her alone, chalk this up to a learning experience for you, and consider doing things differently with other women you meet going forward.
By that, I mean, don't ghost. It's confusing and painful. Want out? Say that. Say it's not working, you're not interested, whatever it is, and wish them well. But don't ghost. Treat others like you would want to be treated - with civility and courtesy.
okay as much as I get your point, let's discuss the other side for a bit as you said, she never initiated a text, and when I got silent/busy/etc she never says anything, and when I do she takes hour to respond, for a moment after getting busy I thought I'm the one getting ghosted, now that I reached out she said I shouldn't worry about it too much cause we were never serious (went on one date) so it's not a big deal for her, she hearted my message about me thinking about her and wanted to take her on a second date if I'm ever around but she continues to take hours to a day to respond, what's up with that? she too can tell me she's not interested if she isn't, no?
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You should continue if that’s what you want. She’s a punk if she falls for it again. There’s no good excuse for ghosting.
yes I'm aware, and I would totally get it if she doesn't wanna continue. and this is not an execute but I need someone who I can actually talk with and get to know, she had everything right, but being a potential LTR the only thing we had is texting which she wasn't used to. our conversations were dry and she never initiated a text, and it made me feel like she wasn't interested in me, and with me being depressed at the time I didn't know what to do
If she falls for you again you gotta teach me brother
I don't think she ever "fell" for me, the text were dry from the beginning, but getting to know her more on the date made me attracted to her, but afterwards things went back to what it was, and it made me feel like she's not interested in me at all, and with being confused at the time I didn't know what to do
I can respond just from the title. No, you shouldn't. Ghosting is bad enough to begin with, but unghosting is even more cruel and inappropiate.
how come?
No. Just by the title, no. After reading your post, still no. Forget about you and *you* being hurt for a moment. Think about the other person. Why? Would you like someone to play yo-yo with you, after they ghosted you, and you never heard another word or text from them, or got texts saying "hi, how are you doing" after they ghosted you? Tip: Women don't like ghosting. Just tell us the simple truth and facts, or leave us alone. We're ok with that, instead of being ghosted, maybe unghosted, then getting contacted again by the same person who may or may not know what they want. Just don't. She probably isn't even thinking of you. You ghosted her - that told her your decision, and it's very likely, she's moved on. So should you. Leave her be. Leave her alone, chalk this up to a learning experience for you, and consider doing things differently with other women you meet going forward. By that, I mean, don't ghost. It's confusing and painful. Want out? Say that. Say it's not working, you're not interested, whatever it is, and wish them well. But don't ghost. Treat others like you would want to be treated - with civility and courtesy.
okay as much as I get your point, let's discuss the other side for a bit as you said, she never initiated a text, and when I got silent/busy/etc she never says anything, and when I do she takes hour to respond, for a moment after getting busy I thought I'm the one getting ghosted, now that I reached out she said I shouldn't worry about it too much cause we were never serious (went on one date) so it's not a big deal for her, she hearted my message about me thinking about her and wanted to take her on a second date if I'm ever around but she continues to take hours to a day to respond, what's up with that? she too can tell me she's not interested if she isn't, no?