My ex of nearly 5 years broke up with me over text while I was at work. Yeah. I came home after my shift and had to pack up everything and move back in with my parents for 2 months while I got back on my feet.
I despised when people said things like “it can only get better from here” or “a door closes another one opens”. But 4 years later, it’s so true. I never would be where I am if I were still with them.
So OP, it’s probably going to suck for a little bit. It did for me at least. But there’s likely brighter things ahead!
Wait, I'm sorry, this might be a ballsy question to ask someone, but when you say "lost your wife" do you mean she died? And when you say "lost 7 years" do you mean you wasted 7 years on a relationship where she died sooner than anticipated?
Just asking because it sounds strange to me comparing waisting 2 years of your life with someone, unmarried, who didn't work out vs a 7 year relationship/marriage that ended in a death of a partner?
Homie.. not everyone reacts to a breakup the same way, and that goes for everything in life. He opened himself up to cheer op up. He’s going through a hard time and so is op. There’s no comparison on who is feeling worse, it’s just being there for each other. Stop getting into other people business.
Why do we gotta judge everything now a days lmao
I'm so sorry to hear this is something you're going though with right now.
Recently lost someone i was with for about a year and its killed me inside too.
Hopefully things will get better soon as generic as that sounds. That food looks bomb though. you made the right decision on that tonight.
This. I remember feeling like I was dying with losing my previous relationship. Like years wasted. Now? Yeah. It sucked and my heart hurt but now I have a person who loves me in the way I wanted and had never experienced. I don’t even remember how it ached, I just remember that it did.
You’re learning from this. You’re learning the things you’ll look for in the next person, you’re learning the kind of love you want, the love that you had. You’ll stop seeing all the good and realize maybe you’re not so bad off in the end…there’s a reason people leave. There are a reason people come.
There is always a sunrise after a sunset.
I’m sending love to OP, a hot bath, and their favorite songs to feel their feelings to and think their thoughts to and get it all out and a pint of their favorite ice cream or dessert. It feels like a hole is carved out but you will grow and get better and feel better and one day it will not hurt the same way it does now.
So good for your mental health to adopt this. Also, the hand that never let’s go of dirt can never pick up gold.
(If it sounds stupid it’s cuz I just made that up, but still)
So people are just suppose to expect that everything “for them” will just fall in their lap and they shouldn’t work for things? Seriously this line sounds awful. Meant to be is the biggest load of shit, put effort into relationships and the people you want to be with. They don’t owe you anything, if you don’t treat them right they have every reason to leave.
I was in a relationship with someone for 8 years and married for 4 of them. It was tumultuous and often conflictual and upsetting but any frame of reference I had for a good relationship was so long ago, I couldn't remember and just assumed this was the norm.
We split up, divorced and sold the shared house, it was a tough time. I'm now 35 and I've met my perfect partner, she is everything I've ever wanted and i now have a much better idea of what 'great' looks like. We're about to move into a new place together.
My point being, I know it's scary and can be depressing, but through this you'll find your perfect life
well that doesn't mean you two wont break up either. Divorce rate is like at 60% and 80% of the time it's the woman initiating. good luck but don't let your guard down.
It’s really depressing of you to go up and down this thread reminding people of this. Yes- we’re all aware our current relationships can end… I hope you start to feel better
lol!
Its just that people say it like everything's fixed, like, sure that would be ideal, that's what we all want, however, reality is that a new relationship isn't as unlikely to end as the previous one.
it’ll be okay, it’s a new chapter for you. Life would be boring if there wasn’t growth. You’ll probably learn a lot about yourself, some stuff you didn’t even know.
Pain is okay to feel just don’t let it rule you. Have a cry, feel the emotions fully then just get back to it. You’re a strong person.
also that food looks good as fuck. enjoy ❤️
I brokeup w my bf of 2 years and even tho I miss the good times with him, I wouldn’t have found a man who treats me like a princess if we didn’t breakup. It’ll be okay OP. Enjoy the meal!
Or potentially, it won’t, and it led them to finding the person for them and not the person who was a learning block and an experience along the way.
Who knows. Let people provide positive thoughts during a perceived hopeless situation
I’m sorry to hear that. I’m almost 4 weeks post-breakup myself. It absolutely sucks in the beginning but time truly does heal; even if that healing isn’t linear. You’ll be ok <3
My girlfriend of 4 years recently broke up with me. I know it’s incredibly tough, and I’m still healing. You’re going to survive this, and you will find someone that will bring out the best in you. But right now, focusing on yourself, making sure that you’re taking care of yourself, and, most importantly, loving yourself is the goal. Much love, if you need someone to talk to, my DMs are open.
Did not know the sub… but the food looks good.
Good luck OP… you deserve to be happy. Even though right now it seems like your world is ending, it will get easier. The weight of that heartbreak will get a little lighter every day. Waking up to realize where you are and what has happened will start to fade a little with every morning.
Someday you will meet someone amazing who deserves you. It may not feel that way right now but it will happen
Is going to? It’s not fair if they’re holding it over your head as some sort of threat. My ex broke up with me after 11 years together. It’s really tough, but you make it through. You’ll be okay xx
I had a bf when I was younger, dated for 4 years and thought we were getting married. He dumped me. It took a long time to feel this way, but if someone doesn't want to be with you then you deserve better.
Stay strong OP 🪬 Encourage you to feel it and process it for a bit but not stay too hung up on it for long. Not meaning rush through processing your emotions and potentially broken heart but just not to let it consume you for too long best you can.
I dated my ex-boyfriend for a year, believing he was the love of my life. Eventually, I discovered his feelings had changed, and accepting that was incredibly tough. I found myself in tears, lost in contemplation, but I made a conscious decision to navigate through it. Sometimes, things worsen before they improve, but I promise, you'll eventually recognize the beauty in your life and understand that you deserve someone far better than that.
My fiancé broke up with me over text while we were living in another country- didn’t come home till he took me to the airport a few days later so I could cuddle my cat and pack my stuff and get nice and numb. I honestly thought I’d never recover but even navigating an 8hr layover at a new airport through tears made me feel better, I felt so alone but I had to figure it out alone and I did- you got this 🙌
Someone broke up with me after 4.5 years, and some of my best years were yet to come. You got this OP
I hated this advice when I heard it after a breakup lol, but it's so so true. I couldn't even imagine how good my life could be!
My ex of nearly 5 years broke up with me over text while I was at work. Yeah. I came home after my shift and had to pack up everything and move back in with my parents for 2 months while I got back on my feet. I despised when people said things like “it can only get better from here” or “a door closes another one opens”. But 4 years later, it’s so true. I never would be where I am if I were still with them. So OP, it’s probably going to suck for a little bit. It did for me at least. But there’s likely brighter things ahead!
Same! Thought my life was over and after a few months of healing I took a solo trip and life has been amazing since then!
👆🏼👆🏼👆🏼
I third this
Fourth. It was my best period of growth as a human
3.5 here. i’m waiting on my time
Sorry to hear that but damn that looks good
Happy cake day
I was literally coming here to say the same thing haha along with lending some encouragement. Happy born day too 🚨
Recently lost my wife and 7 years, I’m sorry… I feel for you 🫂🫂
Wait, I'm sorry, this might be a ballsy question to ask someone, but when you say "lost your wife" do you mean she died? And when you say "lost 7 years" do you mean you wasted 7 years on a relationship where she died sooner than anticipated? Just asking because it sounds strange to me comparing waisting 2 years of your life with someone, unmarried, who didn't work out vs a 7 year relationship/marriage that ended in a death of a partner?
Homie.. not everyone reacts to a breakup the same way, and that goes for everything in life. He opened himself up to cheer op up. He’s going through a hard time and so is op. There’s no comparison on who is feeling worse, it’s just being there for each other. Stop getting into other people business. Why do we gotta judge everything now a days lmao
I'm not trying to be mean, I'm asking him to clarify what he said.
Yooo I'm so sorry. The food looks good tho fr
No cap bussin
On a stack
I'm so sorry to hear this is something you're going though with right now. Recently lost someone i was with for about a year and its killed me inside too. Hopefully things will get better soon as generic as that sounds. That food looks bomb though. you made the right decision on that tonight.
‘What’s for you won’t go by you’ If it’s meant to be it wouldn’t be ending .. you’ve got this
This. I remember feeling like I was dying with losing my previous relationship. Like years wasted. Now? Yeah. It sucked and my heart hurt but now I have a person who loves me in the way I wanted and had never experienced. I don’t even remember how it ached, I just remember that it did. You’re learning from this. You’re learning the things you’ll look for in the next person, you’re learning the kind of love you want, the love that you had. You’ll stop seeing all the good and realize maybe you’re not so bad off in the end…there’s a reason people leave. There are a reason people come. There is always a sunrise after a sunset. I’m sending love to OP, a hot bath, and their favorite songs to feel their feelings to and think their thoughts to and get it all out and a pint of their favorite ice cream or dessert. It feels like a hole is carved out but you will grow and get better and feel better and one day it will not hurt the same way it does now.
^
So good for your mental health to adopt this. Also, the hand that never let’s go of dirt can never pick up gold. (If it sounds stupid it’s cuz I just made that up, but still)
Oooh I’m stealing that one 😂🙌🏻
So people are just suppose to expect that everything “for them” will just fall in their lap and they shouldn’t work for things? Seriously this line sounds awful. Meant to be is the biggest load of shit, put effort into relationships and the people you want to be with. They don’t owe you anything, if you don’t treat them right they have every reason to leave.
Yeah that’s absolutely not what I said at all but go off I guess. It’s not what it means at all .
My nana used to say this. I miss her so much.
So you cooked him ?
completely reasonable reaction
I was in a relationship with someone for 8 years and married for 4 of them. It was tumultuous and often conflictual and upsetting but any frame of reference I had for a good relationship was so long ago, I couldn't remember and just assumed this was the norm. We split up, divorced and sold the shared house, it was a tough time. I'm now 35 and I've met my perfect partner, she is everything I've ever wanted and i now have a much better idea of what 'great' looks like. We're about to move into a new place together. My point being, I know it's scary and can be depressing, but through this you'll find your perfect life
I think I'm right in the middle of this same journey. Looking forward to where you are now. So far, I lost my ex, but I found myself in the process.
well that doesn't mean you two wont break up either. Divorce rate is like at 60% and 80% of the time it's the woman initiating. good luck but don't let your guard down.
It’s really depressing of you to go up and down this thread reminding people of this. Yes- we’re all aware our current relationships can end… I hope you start to feel better
lol! Its just that people say it like everything's fixed, like, sure that would be ideal, that's what we all want, however, reality is that a new relationship isn't as unlikely to end as the previous one.
Who hurt you ?
Really pessimistic. Grass is greenest where you water it.
Is going to? So he hasn’t done it yet?
Dump his ass first, OP!
Break up with him instead
Touché
Username checks out 💕 <- this is a compliment
Sucks but gyat dahum u gonna finish that?
What does your fortune cookie say?
it’ll be okay, it’s a new chapter for you. Life would be boring if there wasn’t growth. You’ll probably learn a lot about yourself, some stuff you didn’t even know. Pain is okay to feel just don’t let it rule you. Have a cry, feel the emotions fully then just get back to it. You’re a strong person. also that food looks good as fuck. enjoy ❤️
Why's that?
I brokeup w my bf of 2 years and even tho I miss the good times with him, I wouldn’t have found a man who treats me like a princess if we didn’t breakup. It’ll be okay OP. Enjoy the meal!
This!
Which is great and all and thats normal, as you broke up with your last bf your current relationship can end too.
Or potentially, it won’t, and it led them to finding the person for them and not the person who was a learning block and an experience along the way. Who knows. Let people provide positive thoughts during a perceived hopeless situation
All relationships have the possibility of ending. But it might not.
Update: My ex boyfriend of 2 years broke up with me an hour after I posted this.
I’m sorry to hear that. I’m almost 4 weeks post-breakup myself. It absolutely sucks in the beginning but time truly does heal; even if that healing isn’t linear. You’ll be ok <3
Why did he break up with you?
Looks like a succulent Chinese meal. Watch out your soon to be ex doesn’t try any judo moves on you op
Democracy manifest.
Get your hand off my penis!!!
i’m sorry :/
Eat up buddy you're in for a ride 🙃 hope it gets better soon for ya.
My girlfriend of 4 years recently broke up with me. I know it’s incredibly tough, and I’m still healing. You’re going to survive this, and you will find someone that will bring out the best in you. But right now, focusing on yourself, making sure that you’re taking care of yourself, and, most importantly, loving yourself is the goal. Much love, if you need someone to talk to, my DMs are open.
That actually looks god like it looks delicious, sorry about the breakup sounds real rough
Why are you so sure of that?
Long story, but he broke up with me an hour or so after the post.
We've all got time lol let's hear the story
🫂🫂
That looks so delicious. I am so sorry.
Did not know the sub… but the food looks good. Good luck OP… you deserve to be happy. Even though right now it seems like your world is ending, it will get easier. The weight of that heartbreak will get a little lighter every day. Waking up to realize where you are and what has happened will start to fade a little with every morning. Someday you will meet someone amazing who deserves you. It may not feel that way right now but it will happen
You know before he’s told?!? Perfect time to use the old uno revers card! Keep you’re head up! Food looks amazing!
Better today than after 2 years of marriage. You got off easy
Since ya know, beat him to it and move on... lifes too short to worry about ppl that wanna split.
At least you have food.
Is going to? It’s not fair if they’re holding it over your head as some sort of threat. My ex broke up with me after 11 years together. It’s really tough, but you make it through. You’ll be okay xx
That sucks, but you'll get over it.
Someone else sells tires like me?
You keep eating his Chinese food.
You deserve this.
OH WOW mega nomzorzzzzzz!!! like scrumpscrump
Probably because you don’t know how to use chopsticks. It’s your fault.
Lmao, you telling me chopsticks fix relationship issues? Someone should give you the love therapist award of the year.
That looks really good
hugs :(
Wow that’s a perfect menu for that kind of event
Hey at least you’re not going to be blindsided. It sounds like you got a heads up and that means more than you think.
I had a bf when I was younger, dated for 4 years and thought we were getting married. He dumped me. It took a long time to feel this way, but if someone doesn't want to be with you then you deserve better.
Congratulations! Get through the heartbreak and let yourself feel all of it. And then get ready for some of the best years of your life. Cheers
Same, diva
what is this it looks incredible
Congrats?
Stay strong OP 🪬 Encourage you to feel it and process it for a bit but not stay too hung up on it for long. Not meaning rush through processing your emotions and potentially broken heart but just not to let it consume you for too long best you can.
Hmmm now I'm thinking Chinese for dinner
Look on the bright side, atleast he didn’t let you waste 5 years on him
Omg my boyfriend also broke up with me a few days ago. Now we can start a club
hopefully youre enjoying your food! same thing happened to me yesterday
i hope you’re doing okay <3
I dated my ex-boyfriend for a year, believing he was the love of my life. Eventually, I discovered his feelings had changed, and accepting that was incredibly tough. I found myself in tears, lost in contemplation, but I made a conscious decision to navigate through it. Sometimes, things worsen before they improve, but I promise, you'll eventually recognize the beauty in your life and understand that you deserve someone far better than that.
My fiancé broke up with me over text while we were living in another country- didn’t come home till he took me to the airport a few days later so I could cuddle my cat and pack my stuff and get nice and numb. I honestly thought I’d never recover but even navigating an 8hr layover at a new airport through tears made me feel better, I felt so alone but I had to figure it out alone and I did- you got this 🙌